Quite often, what I demand (yes, demand) for Mother’s Day, is the be in pictures with my family. It feels selfish and I never feel like I look ‘camera-ready’, trust me. But Mother’s Day is one day that I feel like being a little selfish is okay. And I want my kids to see their Mom there when they look back on their life.
I don’t want to be invisible.
What I know for sure is that, no matter how imperfect I feel today or how I might cringe at some of the photographs that I am in, the important thing is that I am there, together with my kids & my husband. My future self will look at these photographs of me years from now and only think how young she looks.
Most importantly, my kids will see that their Mother values herself. That’s important because kids follow our example. I want my kids to value themselves as they are, so I need to set that example for them, even when my ‘asshole brain’ argues otherwise. (PS: ‘asshole brain’ = negative inner thoughts that keep you from knowing how awesome you are… stolen concept from Kristin Kalp).
Here’s a quote that says it better than I can:
“When we take pictures with our children, we are asserting ourselves as important and valuable, and our children are watching us.”